EVER have that feeling you are talking to a wall???

Hi!

Have you ever had a feeling that you are talking to a wall??  Sometimes it can be a "friend", sometimes it can be a "relative" (and those are more difficult to deal with).  Let's say (just for an example) you've had a really bad bout in hospital whereby you almost died (i.e., cardiologist and other specialists had to be called in and it was touch-and-go).  So....you email your beloved "friend/relative" and let them know what all you've been thru.

They write back, telling you they had constipation that day (YOU are not even a PART of what they are thinking about; they are thinking ONLY about themselves).

I used to hope or expect for a genuine response.  Now, I understand that these folks are so self-centred that they can't see outside what is happening to them.  AND it hurts YOU much, much more than them to "fret" over their inability to see your own pains. 

You could tell them your house was blown away in a tornado.  They will tell you: "You think THAT'S something?  I bought a bag of potato chips and one of the chips was spoiled!!!"

AND - you are "supposed" to act or react to them although they do not take your own life-threatening conditions at all in their scopes.  It is all about THEM  - always was, always will be.  They won't give a hoot that your child had a nearly fatal disease and they won't care that your spouse has been working 9 years without so much as even a salary raise or Cost of Living Adjustment (COLA).  Just get USED to it and move on.

ALSO - such people are SO WRAPPED up in THEMSELVES that you can't talk to them about any REAL items (the bombings in Syria, the Egyptian Spring, the fact that Richard Chamberlain finally "came out" as Gay - they won't discuss anything that is REAL).  Sooner or later their conversation will revert back to THEMSELVES.

It is a real challenge to deal with such people.  Sometimes, one wishes they could see themselves in the mirror and how egocentric they are - but they never will see that side of themselves.

Just KNOW you ARE talking to a WALL and move on with your life - they weren't there to care for you before and never will be.  Move on!!